Dean Pereira and Cindy Heller Pereira are a young working class married couple - Dean currently working as a painter and Cindy working as a nurse in a medical clinic - with a young daughter named Frankie. Despite their relatively tender ages they are both ravaged by the life theyve eked out together and by the experiences theyve had leading into their marriage. Dean a high school drop out comes from a broken home where he never really had a mother figure. He never saw himself getting married or having a family despite falling in love at first sight with Cindy. He doesnt have any professional ambition beyond his current work - which he enjoys since he feels he can knock off a beer at 8 oclock in the morning without it affecting his work - although Cindy believes he has so much more potential in life. Cindy also comes from a dysfunctional family with her own mother and father not setting an example of a harmonious married or family life. One of her previous serious ...
Review
I am going to soap box it here for a second. The MPAA (those fine folk who decide what rating a film will receive) ticks me off to no end. Their system feels arbitrary outdated and stupid. You can only use the ȯ" word once in the non literal sense and maintain a PG13 rating. Because that's the problem kids hearing the ȯ" word too many times. For want of any other description it is terribly stupid.
Why do I bring this up Well because the film I watched tonight a powerful and incredibly touching film has been assigned an NC17 rating for a sex scene that is not erotic not violent not disturbing. It is graphic but more that that it is sad. Really sad. I'll talk more about this later but the idea that we have a system that gives "The Human Centipede" "Hostel 1ɢ″ and all of the "Saw" movies an R rating without a second thought gives this film an NC17 stuns me. I honestly cannot make sense of it. This is a beautiful touching and wonderfully authentic film that deserves a shot at release. There is no logical way a reasonable human being could say that this is less appropriate for a teenager than any of those listed above. For some reason we think graphic torture is fine but sex and nudity will be the downfall of us all.
My favorite poem is T.S. Eliot's "The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock." I've always identified with it and I think it is one of the finest pieces of writing ever produced. Specifically I am enamored with the line "Shall I after tea and cake and ices have the strength to force the situation to its crisis." This describes a situation most of us have been in. You're in a relationship that is failing you know it's failing the other person knows your friends know but it just hasn't reached that crisis point that forces it to end. That is what this film is about.
Most films center on the beginnings of a relationship (the honeymoon) the middle (where things have reached a comfort point) or the divorce proceedings but you rarely get the moment when the relationship dies. It's hard to present well and it's difficult to watch. This is what happens when the things that were once funny and cute aren't funny or cute anymore. We've all been there and it is painful.
If you think of a relationship as having a life then Blue Valentine is that life at the moment of death where the life that is dying flashes in front of your eyes. There is a combination of present time and flashback showing how these two people came together and how the inevitably fell apart.
Gossling and Williams are both superb in this film. He plays all the clumsy sweetness and frustration of Dean perfectly and she plays the damage and need to be loved with a quiet power that is absent from most performances today.
These are two people with a very idealized and romanticized view of love. They view it as something that is there or it isn't. From their backgrounds it is obvious why. Neither of them has any exposure to a couple working at it tending to the relationship. Things are good then they aren't. Williams character says early on "How can you trust your feelings when they can just disappear like that" That is a question that has plagued people as long as there have been relationships. At some point your feelings will change and if you are unequipped to change and grow with them then any relationship is destined to fail.
The two stories (falling in love and falling apart) are told in intersecting circles. You see the beginning of the end then you see how they meet you see the relationship deteriorate further then you see their amazing first date. This style allows you to see how they fell in love with each other but also showed the lack of foundation the ultimately doomed them. Through most of the film it is obvious that the only reason they stayed together as long as they did is because of their daughter and their absolute love for her.
Gosling as the devoted hard working father is touching Williams as the overworked mother who seems to be raising her husband along with her daughter is touching. The dynamic of goofy doting father and concerned loving mother is brilliantly played and creates some genuinely sweet and heartbreaking moments.
This is not an easy movie to watch. It's quite brutal emotionally at times. The scene that earned the NC17 is quite graphic. The two go away to a romantic hotel for a night to try and rediscover something and end up in a graphic sex scene that is just hard to watch. It's not as graphic as say "Monsters Ball" but there is a resistance by Williams followed by a resignation she doesn't want to but she'll do it. It isn't violent it isn't a glamorized rape scene it's hard to watch because it's just so sad. There is no way to deny that this is the death of the relationship embodied in a single moment. He is still infatuated with her but she has moved on and there isn't any of the old spark left.
While I did enjoy this film it is most definitely not something I would watch often. It is good enough to deserve another view or two but it is just to heartbreaking. This script went through 66 drafts over 12 years and it shows in the attention to detail the brilliant pacing and the way it allows a look and silence to speak volumes. This is a well acted solidly written and directed film that is well worth at least one viewing just be aware that it won't be an entirely pleasant experience.